I'm now officially a member of the Alternative Disposition, Hardwired Differently Club.
A first-hand account of an adult ADHD diagnosis, and the help that never followed-The Almighty Gob.
[Voted in, and handed nothing — bar the word.]
Right. So the phone rang yesterday. As it does.
Right. So the phone rang yesterday. As it does.
And you know that ring, don’t you. Perhaps not. However. If you do, it’s probably not the one you’ve been waiting on — the one that comes the moment you’ve given up waiting. Settled. Pleasant. A voice with a clipboard behind it. Name, date of birth, and then the thing itself — an adult ADHD diagnosis, official, on the record, after god knows how many years of me wondering.
ADHD. Combined type.
Combined. The clinical word. The full set. The whole orchestra. Slam dunk. The first clean pass I’d had since I walked out of school at fifteen — and trust them to hand it to me for this. All these years later. Like, say, a latter GCSE in ADHD — and without the certificate to show for it.
So. Not a failure, after all. That’s good to know.
Anyway. There are three of these, as it happens. Three presentations, the manuals call them now. Inattentive, for the dreamers. Hyperactive, for the ones who never sit still. And Combined — for those of us who wouldn’t choose and took the lot. I didn’t pick a lane. I took all three, and floored it.
The deluxe membership, you’d think. The all-inclusive. Except it turns out to be the tier most of us are sat in — the commonest of the three, by a country mile.
However the word that actually landed in my ear — and I want you to hear it the way I heard it — wasn’t combined. It was common.
Now. You’ve had proper news in your life, haven’t you, and you’ll know there’s a ceremony owed to it. A pause. A weight. Are you sitting down. Something.
There was none of that. A voice, a word, then the line went dead the way lines do — and I’m stood there holding a phone, a diagnosis, and not one other thing. Except, the promise of a confirmation email to follow.
And here’s the part that ought to keep them up at night, not me. All those years — sit still, you’re not concentrating, you’d do ever so well if you’d only focus — you got your own version, didn’t you — and the official finding, when it finally lands, is this: I was right, they were wrong, the whole time. Delivered down a phone in the exact flat tone you’d use to tell a man his parcel’s been left round the back.
A parcel, as it happens, I’m still waiting on. DPD — Delivery Personality Disorder, would be about right.
After the diagnosis.
Because I’ll be straight with you — I’d half-pictured a welcome pack. You would have too. Welcome aboard. You’re one of us now. A lanyard, maybe; nothing says belonging like a lanyard. A leaflet you’d fully mean to read and find unread in a drawer in 2031. A fridge magnet that says you’ll get to it. And a pen. A club pen. Lost before the call had properly ended.
Oh. And the perks. Because every club on earth flings perks at you, don’t they — even the ones you never joined. A free birthday hot drink off a sandwich chain that loves me more than some relatives manage. Even dead ones. Loyalty cards, the lot, for things I’ve never once been loyal to.
Which brings me, neat as you like, to the one gift they might actually have pulled off — and didn’t. A loyalty scheme.
Picture it. A loyalty scheme. For us. The one reward programme on earth built to defeat the very people it signs up. You’d rack the points up at speed and lose the card by lunchtime. Download the app full of good intentions; uninstall it before the week was out. Double points for everything we started, and not one solitary point for anything we finished. And the big reward — the one we’ve been saving towards for years — gone, expired, unredeemed, because we never quite got round to claiming it.
Loyalty. They’d have offered us loyalty. The one thing the condition all but promises we’ll forget we ever signed up for.
Not that I’m a stranger to the points system. My previous diagnosis was BPD, and that one ran like a loyalty card whether they’d ever admit it or not — nine symptoms on the list, collect any five and you’re in for life. One of ten personality disorders on the shelf, mind, and you’d not want to be reaching for number ten — the tier they’d sooner hand a weapon than a prescription, and not, I suspect, entirely as a figure of speech.
ADHD doesn’t work that way. You don’t collect the three presentations like Clubcard points — you get filed under one. I took the combined, the lot of them in a single swipe, and that was that.
This club, though, gives us nothing. Not a card. Not a discount. Not so much as a t-shirt — and I’ll tell you exactly what I’d have had across the chest, given half a chance. Not you are now officially a member; that’s their language, all forms and filing. No. Alternative Disposition. Hardwired Differently. That t-shirt I’d have worn to the shops. Out of spite. Tucked in.
And you’d think — wouldn’t you — that after all that, there’d at least be a gong in it. A lifetime of unpaid service to the field. Decades as its most patient case study. A Services to Psychiatry Lifetime Achievement Award, say — now there’s something I’d have pinned to the wall and dusted weekly. For services rendered. For sheer length of service. For turning up, time after time, undiagnosed and uncomplaining, keeping the whole profession in honest work — and never once collecting so much as a certificate for my trouble.
The exclusivity test.
And exclusive, they keep telling me. Exclusive. Years on a list just to be looked at. So let’s test that, shall we.
There are, roughly, two and a half million of us. Every political party in Britain put together — Labour, the Tories, the Lib Dems, the SNP, the Greens, Reform, the whole squabbling lot of them — musters about one and a quarter million between them. Which makes this exclusive little club of mine twice the size of organised politics in the entire country.
Twice. Some exclusivity.
The most exclusive club I will ever be let into, and the only one on earth that hands its members absolutely nothing.
No annual ceremony for the most fidgety in the room, either. No Best Intentions Award — Oscar night, the envelope, the gold statuette, the acceptance speech you’d begin beautifully and never quite land — hosted by a beaming Secretary of State for Health and Social Care, reading the autocue as though he meant a word of it. Sponsored, naturally, by Ritalin — with a special category, late in the evening, for Best Use of the Drug.
The one and only perk.
Nothing, mind. Well — almost nothing. Because there is, I’ll grant them, the one perk. The single, solitary bonus of exclusive membership.
A lifetime prescription to Ritalin — methylphenidate, to give it its Sunday name. A stimulant — an upper, no less — that for a brain wired like mine is supposed to work clean in reverse. Sit with that a moment. The one gift the club hands us is a substance that settles us down by speeding us up, and they hand it over for life.
Because here’s a mind that already feels like it’s travelling a million miles an hour — flat out, no brakes, never has been otherwise — and the considered clinical remedy is to hand it an upper. To speed it up. So that it might, at long last, slow down.
Which is, give or take, like handing a mass murderer an AK-47 and calling it anger management. Just sit with that for a minute, if you choose. It’s verging on comedy gold.
It’s exactly what my Irish mother would have called logic. Fair to say, I think.
And I’ll be honest with you — I can hardly wait to try it.
No committee, either. No AGM, no biscuits on a Tuesday. And that might be the one mercy in the whole affair — because picture the committee. Go on. Picture it with me.
Twelve of us in a room. One item on the agenda. Not a hope on God’s earth of reaching it. Three people talking at once, all three correct. Someone’s rewritten the constitution by Tuesday and told no one. The minutes from last time? Started — beautifully, real promise in those minutes — and abandoned at point one. Half the room’s wandered off mid-sentence after a better idea; the other half’s still on the first one, going magnificently deep, deeper than the thing ever needed.
Nothing would get done. Everything would get started. The most interesting room in Bristol, and not one decision walks out of it alive.
And don’t — please don’t — let them start a membership benefits sub-section. Say, an ADHD Drivers’ Association. A branch for the ones behind the wheel.
Picture the breakdown cover. One member, stranded, hazards going. Does one tidy van turn up? It does not. Six of us turn up. None with jump leads. All with a theory. Every last one certain it’s the alternator — it’s always the alternator, we’ve decided, don’t ask us why. Bonnet up, car forgotten inside ninety seconds, and the hard shoulder’s quietly become the liveliest stretch of tarmac in the West Country while the vehicle sits there, cold, going nowhere. Much like the committee.
And that’s only the mechanical breakdown. The other kind I’d rather not dwell on — though, between us, I reckon we’d talk each other down a treat. Eventually. Once we’d all finished talking at once.
So no. No club to run, no chaos to chair, no breakdown cover going spare. Just a word, and me, and the rest of my life to square the two.
The help that never follows.
And here’s where I stop laughing — and where, I’d gently suggest, so should they.
Because official is the word doing all the lifting. And official, it turns out, is hollow as a chocolate Santa. Officially diagnosed. Officially a member. Officially — and this is the whole bit — nothing follows.
Years on a waiting list to be seen. Years. And the seeing, when it comes, takes the length of one phone call. A decade of waiting against a minute of being told, and then a silence that closes over the top as though the call never happened.
That’s the whole trick of it. Institutions are magnificent at filing us and useless at the bit that comes after. The certificate was only ever the help wearing a smarter font — and the help, when they mention it at all, turns out to be parachutes on the roof of a building ablaze. A safety measure in name only, placed exactly where no one in trouble could ever reach it, and handed to us with a straight face as reassurance.
They sort us, stamp us, and leave us holding our shiny new word in the same silence we walked in carrying. Which, if you’ve read a line of mine these past years, you’ll recognise on sight, won’t you. It’s the exact complaint I’ve aimed at this city from the off.
Only this time they aimed it at me. Down a phone. And called it a diagnosis.
The least common man in Bristol, filed at last under common.
So I’m common now. Officially. On a record in a building I’ll never see, signed by people I’ll never meet, filed beside a t-shirt that was never printed and a pen I’d have lost regardless.
I have never felt less common in my life.
No plaque came. No pack arrived. The magnet never made it onto the fridge — so I’ll tell you what it would have said, shall I. You’ll get to it.
And do you know — I rather think I just did.
So here’s what I’ll do with their empty, exclusive, perk-free club — the one they never bothered to name. I’ll name it myself. The Alternative Disposition, Hardwired Differently Club. Membership: one. Committee: chaos. Perks: still none — however the t-shirt’s getting printed, and I am wearing it to the shops.
The word’s mine now. The club’s mine now. And I’ve always been quietly good at taking the words they hand me and aiming them back the way they came.
Consider this one aimed.
The Almighty Gob is a Bristol-based publication founded by John Langley — independent mayoral candidate in 2016 and 2021, and one of Bristol’s most forensic observers of institutional power. Writing since 2010, well over 1,000 pieces across seven platforms and Substack at thealmightygob.com — no party allegiance, no press accreditation, no interest in acquiring either.
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